Valentines day alert! Apologies if you’re trying to escape it but seem to be getting it from all angles, I know how that feels! But Valentines Day is almost upon us, and no matter how hard we try, we can’t get away from it. Every brand seems to have a themed advert out; on the TV, on the tube, on Twitter. I walked into Scribbler and an entire half of the store was Valentines cards – I literally couldn’t find the birthday cards I was looking for for a moment. For some of you I’m sure Valentines Day is exciting, a chance to spend some quality time with your other half and an excuse to do something fun. For the other half, I expect you slightly dread it (or perhaps you’re embracing it and going to see 50 Shades of Grey with your girlfriends as half the UK seems to be doing this weekend!) I’m kind of in the middle, I’m not single so I don’t dread it. I do remember that feeling though, it’s the one day everyone can just rub it in your face and not feel guilty! But then I’m also not particularly bothered by it, I’ve said to my boyfriend let’s go for dinner another night to avoid the crowds and the hiked prices.
But anyway, love it or hate it, it’s nearly here. And whoever you are I’ve thought of a way to turn Valentines Day into a positive – whether you’re single or attached – by using it as an excuse to tell everyone you love that you love them. It may sound cheesy but how often do we hear that the biggest regret when someone dies is that you didn’t tell that person you loved them enough? Thinking about this, I decided my love-themed challenge this week would be to tell everyone I love that I love them. It’s not as many people as you would think, there’s plenty of people that I really like but not that many I actually love. And I wanted a challenge that all you singletons could join in with too. Do have a go and let me know how it goes?
The Boyfriend: Just to get it out the way (skip this part if you really have had enough of smug couples, I totally understand!), the first person that sprang to mind was my lovely boyfriend. We’ve been together 4 and a half years now and I think I still tell him I love him everyday (pass the sick bucket!) but to make it more of a challenge I decided to show him. I knew that he’d had a stressful day and needed some relax time so I nipped in to Lush on my way home from work and bought him a bubble bath bomb. I know he would never go in and buy one for himself but I know he secretly loves them so I went ahead and bought him their new bug bath bomb. It’s a bit of a looker so that made him chuckle too. One person down, lots more to go.
The Parents: Now these two are somehow easy to forget, they do so much for me every single day and yet I’m not sure I tell them how much I appreciate it and love them enough. So I went straight out and said thank you and I love you to them both individually. I probably tell my mum quite a lot so she just gave me a hug and told me she loved me too. My dad on the other hand, I know I’m sometimes guilty of neglecting, so I made sure to tell him too. He genuinely seemed really pleased and gave me a huge hug, I think it might have made his evening! I’ve definitely learnt I should tell him more often.
The Siblings: Being blessed (and also cursed!) by a big family, this was more of a challenge then you might think. You see first off there was my little sister, being the baby of the family I tell her I love her all the time so it was pretty routine. I decided to spend a bit of time with her though to actually show it, admiring her ombré nails! I’m so busy and I often feel guilty for not spending the time I should with her.
Number two was my youngest brother – he’s 16 and having a bit of a hard time at the moment stressing over his A Levels, so this one was important to me. Being 16, he doesn’t really talk about feelings and I don’t think I ever really tell him I love him. I was already planning to have a chat with him about University which he’s worrying about a bit but then it felt weird to say I loved him at the end of that – it would have been so out of the ordinary! So instead that evening I knocked on his bedroom door and said goodnight and I love you, he seemed to appreciate it.
And finally it came to brother number 3 who lives away at uni. I was about to just text him to tell him I love him (we’re much more open with our feelings) when I realised I hadn’t spoken to him in about 3 weeks and I felt awful! So I text him to ask how he was, how uni was going, what he was up to, that I missed him and loved him very much. We got into a long text thread about life and what we were up to and this genuinely made me really happy, I’d forgotten how much I missed him and I wouldn’t have chatted to him if it wasn’t for this mission!
The Goddaughter: My gorgeous goddaughter-to-be (she’s not christened yet) is the cutest little thing ever – she’s only 5 months old. I hadn’t seen her in a couple of weeks so I made sure to last weekend. And whilst I bounced her around on my shoulder (which she proceeded to throw up on) I told her I loved her. She couldn’t understand but I was glad I said it anyway. That one is going to break many hearts on future Valentines Days I feel!
The Friends I Haven’t Seen in a While: University tends to scatter your friends half way across the globe (and country) and means you go from living with people and seeing them everyday to seeing them once a year if you’re lucky. I have two very close friends from uni who I love very much so I dropped them both a text to say I love them. Because of this we are now planning to meet up much sooner than we would have otherwise.
The Best Friend I See Nearly Everyday: I see my best friend basically everyday as we get the train into or out of London together most days. She knows everything about me but I honestly don’t think I ever really tell her I love her. Last weekend was her birthday so with this challenge in mind, I made sure to buy her a birthday card (which I rarely bother to do for anyone these days!) and write in it how proud I was of her and everything she’s achieved this year, and how much I love her. It brought a tear to her eye (she had just necked half a bottle of champagne but still!), mission complete!
So that’s it, that was everyone I decided to tell how much I love them. Some I tell all the time and some not so much but all 10 told me they loved me back (actually my little goddaughter didn’t, but she can’t speak so it doesn’t count!) and because of that I got 10 lots of love thrown back at me. That’s a really good feeling. I suggest if you don’t have anyone to spend Valentines Day with this year and you’re feeling lonely, give this a go. Throw your love out there and I guarantee you’ll get some back in return. Let me know how you get on?