I’ve been wanting to write a post about my little motto for a long time. It’s sneaked in to a lot of my others before, I’ve mentioned it here and there. But I decided today was the day to dedicate an entire post to it. ‘It’s the little things’. That phrase is really transforming my life, month by month. I think I first thought about it after reading it on Pinterest – one of my many inspirational quote pins that I’ve become obsessed with. But for some reason, that one really stuck for me. Last year I reached a bit of a crisis moment, if you’ve been reading my blog for a while you’ll know. I didn’t know what I was doing, I wasn’t happy and I wasn’t sure what would make me happy or how to be happy. It felt confusing and horrible.
- Red top – New Look
- Black jeans – Topshop
- Triangle necklace – Accessorize
- Mac – Primark (last year)
- Leopard Print flats – Accessorize
I think everyone reaches that moment in their twenties when they suddenly realise how old they are – that if they’d have seen someone their age when they were 15 they would have thought they were a ‘proper adult’. We all know now that such a thing doesn’t exist. But it’s still a weird time, a time of flux. When you’re in school and university, year by year you have a goal – something to work for. Whether it’s your GCSEs, A Levels, first year uni exams etc., something punctuates the end of each and every year. And then you get out of education and that doesn’t happen anymore. I think that way of schooling for us millennials is partly why we don’t stay in jobs for as long as previous generations, we’re so used to something starting and ending again, of working toward something new every single year.
My whole life I thought my career would define me. I’m a perfectionist (I don’t say this as a compliment to myself, in fact quite the opposite, I think it’s quite a negative quality to possess). So working hard should define me, should be my mark on the world. I should be a career woman, rise up the ranks quickly and be a big boss by the time I’m thirty. Then I got into the real world and a) I realised that doesn’t always happen and you have very little control over it, and b) more surprisingly, I realised I didn’t want that. I didn’t really enjoy the 9-5, I could get used to it but I still craved the moments I spent outside of it, the moments I spent with family and friends, moments spent travelling the world, moments spent enjoying the outdoors. And that really surprised me. I thought working hard and being successful would satisfy me, but within a year of entering the work place, I knew that wasn’t true.
So what would satisfy me? How could I make my world a happy one and my life something I deemed ‘successful’? Such a difficult word – it so often means career or educational success. First off, I realised that was wrong. To be successful, for me, would be to be happy. And to be happy? Well I’m still working on it. But I know my career isn’t going to be the only thing that will make me happy. It can make me happy hopefully, but it’s not going to make me happy if it defines me. Instead, it’s the little things. They will make me happy if I just pause, realise them and enjoy them. They were making me happy all along, if I’d just realised it. The walks in the parks, splashing in muddy puddles, wearing a new top which I love, doing my makeup just the way I want it, eating a cupcake and drinking a cup of tea, binge watching a Netflix series, making the train with one minute to spare, cuddling up under the duvet whilst the rain beats at the window, having a Lush bath, getting a complimentary email at work, spending an hour on my hair, a new notebook, playing a game of chase the waves with my little sister. I could go on and on. It’s the tiny little moments, which may only last five seconds. They can come and go, and you might never notice them. But if you do, and if you always live in the moment with those little things, then you’ll be happy. Because little happy things touch everyday, even the very worst of them.
P.S. Speaking of little things, I just love wearing this New Look red top, I feel floaty and spring-like and on top of the world. Paired with my new leopard print flats as well, I feel just the right side of sassy!