I’m sitting here in my sick bed writing this blog, I just can’t do nothing and relax. It’s impossible for me so sick days are the hardest, I just want to get up and get going. But for now, typing will have to suffice!
The last couple of weeks I’ve tried adding a new thing to my routine, because I’ve heard time and time again that it is so brilliant at improving your mental health and your general happiness and wellbeing. This is writing down your top 3 happiest moments of the day at the end of the day before you go to bed. It can be difficult to add something, even something tiny, to your bedtime routine. I’ve always wished I could write a diary or do a longer skincare routine, but my evening routine is usually a rush. It goes something a lot more like; watch TV, realise it’s much later than I thought, quickly take my make up off and moisturise, shove on some PJs, clean my teeth and jump into bed. There’s really no time for much else. If only my evening routine looked like it does in those Youtube evening routine videos.
This little challenge isn’t too hard to sneak in though, you simply leave a notebook and pen on your bedside table and write down your three favourite things that happened in the day. At first I thought perhaps I could just think those things, it would be quicker and easier. But I really think writing them down is key, getting them down on paper makes them more real and memorable. Some days it has been super easy and I could have written down 5 or 6 things, this makes it more fun reflecting on a good day and choosing your top highlights. Some days I really struggled, I think that’s quite normal. I could think of maybe 1 or 2 good things maximum. These days force you to look for the positives, especially when you have sick days and there is very little to find. I would write down things as simple as; ‘I felt better after my afternoon nap’.
The best thing about this challenge is remembering the happy things from the day and going to bed with those in your mind. Often the most reflective time for me, and the time in which I have most time to think, is right at the end when I get into bed. Life is so fast-paced and we rarely get a time to sit and reflect, so often this can all happen in a rush at the end of the day. It is so much better for your mental health that you spend this time looking at the positives rather than the negatives. Previously, when I’ve been really stressed, I’ve found that writing down the things I’m worried about before bed has allowed me to let them out of my mind and put them to rest. I still use this technique from time to time. Recording the positives is the exact opposite, it reminds you of the good times in order to force the worries out.
I recorded things as varied as: ‘Loved spending time with my brother today’, ‘got the marquee ordered for my Mum and Dad’s party’, ‘had a doughnut at work today’, ‘laughed til I cried about that email I received’. It can be tiny small things, maybe in the day with the funny email I also had 100 other emails that made me stressed but because I’m remembering the happy I’m highlighting that one and making it stand out in my mind. Why not give this challenge a go for yourself and perhaps you too will become just a little more positive.