How many times have you got yourself worked up about something which never actually happened? For me it’s more than an everyday occurrence. I got thinking about it because I’ve just finished my first week back at work after a holiday in Croatia – it was an amazing 10 days away that I’d spent a bloody fortune on. But I spent a lot of it worrying about things that were going to happen when I got back. Then I got home and surprise surprise the things I was worrying about hadn’t happened. And probably never would.
Worry is such a weird thing. I think it evolves from the whole fight or flight adrenaline kick that our ancestors needed to protect them from being eaten by a bear. Luckily we don’t really need that so much anymore. I’ve thought about it a lot and worry really serves no purpose at all. Try and think back to what you were worrying about this time last year, this time last month, even yesterday? The majority of those worries mean very little now. And even when that 1% of things you’re worrying about does happen, what does worrying about it do to help you? It’s not like worrying gives you a get out clause or anything. If only. In fact, it’ll probably make things worse, you’ll have created this smoking volcano in your head filled with the lava of possible outcomes you’ve imagined ready to explode all over the place when the thing you’re worrying about actually happens.
So I’ve resolved to try to only worry about things that are actually in my control now. Only things I can worry about, then make a plan to resolve. After all, a very wise person once told me ‘worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but gets you absolutely nowhere’.